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5 Steps to Avoiding a KonMari Rebound

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5 steps to avoiding a konmari reboundThe fear of rebound is real. In both of her books , The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up and Spark Joy Marie Kondo frequently mentions how no one has ever rebounded after following her method of tidying. A “rebound” would mean going back to living in a cluttered and messy house after you have completed the method. The idea is to tidy your home by going through all the things you own by category, choosing to keep the things that “spark joy” then thanking and letting go of the rest. No one wants to be the first to fail at the method.

“Thinking of your life after KonMari is the key,” according to Ms. Mitsugu Ando, the Manager of the KonMari Consultants in Japan who recently led a private seminar in San Francisco, California. I was honored to attend the seminar and the notes I took will help you stay on track with your tidying.

 

Follow these steps in order and you will be forever safe from having a KonMari rebound.

1. Imagine your Ideal Home and Life

The first and most important step. Think about the life you want. What does it look like? What does it feel like? How are you spending your time? To answer these questions write down your objective and goals, or create a board on Pinterest, or create a vision board from images cut from magazines pasted on a poster board. However you choose to express yourself, this activity will serve as your guide post to keep you motivated to complete the KonMari Method in your home.

2. Focus on the Positive

One of the ways the KonMari Method stands out from the other methods of decluttering is that it is all about focusing on what you want to keep in your life. Focusing on what brings you joy and surrounding yourself in these joyful belongings will increase your joy.

3. Decide your “Click Point”

The KonMari Method is not minimalism. There is no set number of things you should keep. As you go through your things by category, ask yourself, “how much is enough?” You decide for yourself what is the right amount of things for you.

4. Designate a Home for Each Thing

Once you have gone through all your belongings and kept the joyful things, it’s storage time. Make sure each thing has a home. Some basics of storing are the magical folding method for cloth/soft things, vertical placement, storing like with like and dividing storage into squares by using boxes.

5. Return Things to their Homes

After you use something, put it back where you got it from. Simple enough, right?

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Five simple steps that will lead to a forever tidy home. Nothing to be afraid of friends. My favorite lesson from the seminar is to forget all the “rules” of the method and tune into your inner guide. It’s all about finding what “sparks joy” for you. So you be the judge about these five steps. Joy or No Joy?

 

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The Heart of KonMari Magic

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During my KonMari session one day it dawned on me that how I felt about myself would become how my daughter felt about herself, regardless of what I said to her about how she was lovable, worthy, and capable. I struggle with feeling afraid of making mistakes, being vulnerable, not being perfect or creating perfect things. These negative feelings are not what I want to pass down to her. I want her to feel loved, confident, and capable of doing anything without fear or self-criticism holding her back. I want her to know and love herself so she can be herself. Which means my commitment must be to love myself, be myself, and share my ideas in order to model how it’s done.
Revised self love
I have returned to going to therapy regularly to work on my self-compassion and I have been doing the self-compassion meditations that I am always sharing in the FaceBook group. I was thinking that meditation was connected to the KonMari Method since asking the Joy or No Joy question is all about tuning into your inner guide. I hadn’t made the direct connection that learning to love yourself was an acknowledged part of the method until I read in Spark Joy, by Marie “KonMari” Kondo that “the greatest change that occurs through tidying is that you will learn to like yourself.” This is happening for me, slowly yet surely, and my hope is that it is happening for you too. It makes all the difference in the world- it makes joy possible.
In her most recent talk in New York, KonMari made the claim her method would lead to world peace, and I wondered what she meant. Now I understand that once we face our belongings we will learn to like ourselves, and from there we will be loving and kind to ourselves and to everyone around us.  
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